Out of control emotions can make it hard to maintain friendships, romantic relationships and can even jeopardise our careers. Many of us never learned the skills we need to cope with difficult emotions, and that makes it impossible to deal effectively with stressful or distressing situations that inevitably come up in our lives. This course teaches participants how to recognise, understand and regulate emotions so that they have more choices about how to manage day to day stressors and distressing events.

“I have found ways to cope and been encouraged to use them as and when I’m up for it, long term. I feel like I can work with my traits that I used to think of as negative/ want to avoid.”
Jade

This group course is for you if:

Want to befriend your emotions & understand what they are communicating
Want to learn to accept and change unwanted emotions
Want to have more choices about how to regulate emotions
Want to learn with other quirky queers and cultural renegades
You're willing to try out new ideas!

This group course is NOT for you if:

You want to suppress or ignore your emotions
You aren't a quirky queer or cultural renegade
You already have a deep and thorough understanding of your emotions and how to change them when needed
You don't want to try new things that may make you feel a little uncomfortable sometimes

"I was really surprised to feel more comfortable than I have in any kind of therapy setting I’ve ever been in. I’ve been able to be really open and bring my full self to the skills group and I feel really very grateful for that."
Gray

Who we are at Love Uncommon

Love Uncommon was founded by Sophia Graham who is a sex and relationship geek trained in counselling, DBT & teaching. Sophia works with other coaches and therapists to provide courses on emotion regulation, distress tolerance, interpersonal effectiveness and self consent.

We work with quirky queers and cultural renegades including sex workers, performers, kinksters, neuroqueers, and people across the gender, sexual and relationship diversity spectrum. That means our clients are cis and trans; women, men and non-binary folks; people that are monogamous and non-monogamous; autistic and allistic; sexual and asexual, disabled and non-disabled.

This is what we will be covering!

Week 1 – Orientation and mindfulness
This is all about understanding the DBT approach, the rules of skills groups and the approach that DBT takes to mindfulness.

Week 2 – The emotion cycle & myths about emotion
This week is all about understanding the emotion cycle and debunking some myths about emotions that we might hold onto. You’ll get a chance to think about what myths affect you and how you might shift to more helpful beliefs. You will also have some time thinking about the pros and cons of changing emotions.

Week 3 – Check the facts
This week is all about moving from awareness of your emotion towards changing your emotion. You will learn a process to work through an emotional situation. This skill is a critical starting point for working out whether to address your emotion with opposite action or problem solving.

Week 4 – Opposite action
This is all about finding ways to act in opposition to your emotion while feeling it. We talk about body language, ways of speaking and behaving in relation to a range of different emotions.

Week 5 – Problem solving
This is all about finding practical solutions for the problems at hand – once you’ve worked out what problem it is that you have to solve. It teaches a process for coming to solutions and creating actionable steps to put them into practice.

Week 6 – Accumulating positives and cope ahead
This week is all about identifying your values and finding ways of incorporating them into your life in big and small ways. Pleasant events are an important part of creating a life worth living, and making sure that you are looking after your emotional health.

Week 7 – Physical vulnerability factors
This session is all about taking care of your body so that you reduce your biological vulnerability to emotional distress. You will figure out what factors affect you most & make a plan to address them over the next week

Week 8 – Review of emotion regulation skills
We look back on the skills that we have learned and troubleshoot issues that come up. We will also review any specific skills folks would like to go over.

The course package and what's included.

Join us!

$320 / €300 / £250

8 weekly 90 min live classes.
Videos, podcasts, handouts and worksheets to support your learning.
A group of other quirky queers and cultural renegades to learn with you.
Starts Thursday 18th April 7pm UK time, 2pm Eastern, 11am Pacific.